Topic : the age of loneliness is killing us

When we talk about loneliness, it doesn't sound like a happy topic. People usually link it closely with pathetic or not popular. However, loneliness is such a fair thing that it has nothing to do with fortune or poverty.

In my opinion, the real loneliness is about understanding. Whether you are rich or not, whether you are popular and have many friends around, when you feel no one can walk into your heart and understand your thoughts, or people have a false impression of you, you will get to know the taste of loneliness, a feeling that not easily fade away.

Loneliness generates from different kinds of life experience, though it usually let people feel frustrated, there are still some people are so brave to fight with loneliness, even "enjoy" it.

There is a famous Chinese poet named LiBai, he once wrote" higher place makes you cold", reflects his concern that when you earns reputation and fame, people would keep away from you.The truth is, standing high is not the cause of loneliness, loneliness is one thing you have to overcome to go upwards, that is to say, those outstanding people you know from history or someone you respect in real life, they already get used to loneliness.

When we review the history, we can find so many writers, artists, politicians, athletes, inventors, and scientists who are lone people with great achievements, especially literature and art work. From Beethoven's symphony to Van Gogh's Starry night, from Virginia Woolf's lighthouse to David Fincher's film, we sense and realize the message from these masterpiece, all about loneliness. What interesting is, the moment you feel it, the emotion resonance make you not lonely anymore.

Back to the article, why we still feel lonely in this intensely-linked society? All kinds of devices connect you with all people, whatever you like or not, many irrelevant connection actually distract you a lot from the things you truly care, therefore you feel exhausted. One way to escape from this is to bear it, express your feeling through doing what you enjoy and with people you love.

So the devices are not responsible, the fast speed world is not wrong, all we need to do is to find the essence of life, and loneliness is part of it.

This article reminds me the movie Her. The director of the movie explores the intimate relationship. People desire for intimacy, but also fear and resist it. And as the article mentioned, technology is definitely facilitate communication, but also make people hiding behind it to avoid real emotional contact. Google search engine and “friend circle” of wechat are two good examples. Google definitely helps us to find useful information quickly and precisely. But on the other side, it isolates us from people who are different from us in whatever culture, hobby, and perspective to the world, etc. “Friend circle” of wechat is the same way. Especially, mobile phones are almost part of our body. You spend a bunch of timing looking at what your so-called friends are doing in the “Friend circle”, nothing is left and you feel much lonelier. Just walk out and make contact with real people.  

The article also mentions another thing---happiness is not proportional to wealth, fame. Yes, I totally agree with it. One method to solve this is probably”do what you like” as Pro. Ali said. This is always what I believe in. One of my favorite enterprise entrepreneurs Richard Branson once said that”do good, have fun and the money will come.” And he also borrows a line from the poet Nick Laird “Time is how you spend your love.” You couldn’t put it any better than that. If you love what you do, then the separation between work and play disappears. And you will feel very happy.

Loneliness is there no matter the times or age of people. When a man is alone for a long time that not with his expectation, or even he stays with other people but the communication is bad or just he feel that lack of concern, usually he will feel lonely.
Old people, women and children are kind of human that are easy feel lonely, I think the reason of this situation is mostly lies in
these people usually are accompanied, together they do things casually without any aim, once the ones accompany them before don't like to be together with them, they have little way to find the same companion.
Considering modern technology that enable people connect each other much easier via internet, smart phone, pad, etc. or just exhibit their own photos, words, etc. People tend to use this easy way overmuch, for communication, exhibition and some for business use, and very import for escape from the reality! If people feel that the face to face communication is not good, they tend to transfer their attention to the phone to find some fun.
Whatever purpose that people spend much time on internet or smart phone, they spend much less time or effort to face to face communication, this tremendously impact the companion with the 3 kinds of people mentioned above, and also the communication with people that in front of them. For this, not even consider that the smart phone usage reduce the communication quality for the interruption and also less attention is paid to current surroundings. This, even people with smart phone, will also feel lonely, and more when he pays spend more time on the phone.
No matter from the people who use the smart phone too much or others, we call for healthy usage of electronic devices, and pay more attention to your family, friends, and tread others more politely.